Where are you registered?
This has been a common question from people when they find out that we are getting married. I love the question and that people want to shower us with gifts. It makes me feel important and like it’s my birthday.
We'd been dragging our feet about registering. I know for some of you that is a relief and for others a reason to pull your hair out.
Well I finally realized why it was taking me so long and why in the world would I not give you people a way to memorialize this event by giving me a trinket. Hmmm, probably because even though I love each and every one of you, I'd curse your name as I had to pack up all these wonderful trinkets and awkwardly and precariously; emphasis on the latter, pack them into our storage shed.
See due to the decision to, turn our lives upside down, and send me to nursing school we were forced to make some changes. I moved down to Del Norte, away from my family, to go to school. Lydia worked extra shifts to keep up on the bills and support my lavish lifestyle. We continued this path for many many months.
When a smarter option popped into one of those floating comment boxes above our head saying rent your home, we did just that. In march we, or should I say Lydia, packed up our lives into little boxes and managed to get our life as we know it into a very very small storage shed. I then took the dogs and cats down with me to school and Lydia became a renter of a room with some friends. Nothing like feeling like your back in college, renting a room, doing laundry at a laundry mat, maintaining a long distance relationship-----oh wait I am back in college.
With our lives in boxes we realized we don’t want to do the normal wedding registry. No china, wine glasses, toasters, wine coolers and picnic baskets for us! Lydia made me say that – I’d take the wine glasses, giggles. Instead we are asking that you support our travels this summer and beyond. We know we will be in this same situation, boxes and storage sheds, for about 5 more years with our current trajectory.
If you’d like to give a wedding gift please either click on the tab at the top of this blog listed as Our Registry or go to www.madgeandlydia.zankyou.com (Nicole thanks for sending me that direction – it saved me so much time given the direction I was headed).
I look forward to seeing all the trinkets; I mean tokens of love, pile up as we expand our summer plans.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Packing!
Packing!
How long does it take topack up a life? No not quite it. Hmm. How long does it take to put one life on hold, start another, put that one on hold, to start up your old new life? Ok that is closer but not quite it. I think this blog will take longer to compose than the packing itself! I need some sort of worm hole time continuum thingy to explain what I’m saying. Spock could you help me out here?
It is not easy making changes. It is not changing easy that makes the change. It is seeing how you view it that makes it easy. If you are still following this blog then follow me to the psych ward self admittance station.
Here I am packing up a life to go on the next adventure. Do you know how to pack for an unknown adventure? Apparently neither do I. However, I do have a fail safe, which according to the back of my truck, is called bring it all. Bring that pair of shorts, I’m pretty sure don’t fit any longer, that goes with that cute t-shirt. Don’t forget the camping gear, the climbing gear, winter clothes, summer clothes, the biking gear oh and definitely back the yoga mat and clothes. Pack up the kitties and the dogs.
Yep that is correct. Pack up everything you think you might want so you can’t see out the review mirror. Then toss two 11 year old cats into the cab and hope you have enough sticky rollers to make it look like they were never there for four hours and 250 miles. Oh and remember you still need room in this truck for one more person and their stuff. Yeah right. I guess I’ll be housing what I don’t need, when I figure out what I do need, in Heathers basement.
I’ll be picking up where I left off. Yet I’ll be trying not to pause what I’ve developed. I’ve been doing a lot of leaving these days. Leave my friends in Denver to create new friends in Del Norte. Oh wait change that to friend because if one of them reads this I don’t want her thinking I know she likes people. I’d hate for her to know I figured out that façade. Now I’m leaving the new friends to go back to Denver and massage those relationships back to health. Or am I?
This is my challenge, learning how to go on to the next adventure without loosing anything/anyone. I’m planning on working with Garmin to find a way for me to avoid getting lost over these distances. It seems my relationships are determined by geographic nearness! Yikes I guess it’s time to get geographic on everyone’s ass.
Watch out! I’m coming to a stretch of highway near you! What fun do you have for us today?
There is so much more to this topic but remember I still need to pack. I must get back to my lovely Lydia who has been frozen in Carbonite while I run about the galaxy learning about medical care for humans. I hope I haven’t lost anything and the space worm thingy will get me back like we were never apart.
Madge
(PS maybe one day Lydia will blog on her post that I hijacked)
How long does it take to
It is not easy making changes. It is not changing easy that makes the change. It is seeing how you view it that makes it easy. If you are still following this blog then follow me to the psych ward self admittance station.
Here I am packing up a life to go on the next adventure. Do you know how to pack for an unknown adventure? Apparently neither do I. However, I do have a fail safe, which according to the back of my truck, is called bring it all. Bring that pair of shorts, I’m pretty sure don’t fit any longer, that goes with that cute t-shirt. Don’t forget the camping gear, the climbing gear, winter clothes, summer clothes, the biking gear oh and definitely back the yoga mat and clothes. Pack up the kitties and the dogs.
Yep that is correct. Pack up everything you think you might want so you can’t see out the review mirror. Then toss two 11 year old cats into the cab and hope you have enough sticky rollers to make it look like they were never there for four hours and 250 miles. Oh and remember you still need room in this truck for one more person and their stuff. Yeah right. I guess I’ll be housing what I don’t need, when I figure out what I do need, in Heathers basement.
I’ll be picking up where I left off. Yet I’ll be trying not to pause what I’ve developed. I’ve been doing a lot of leaving these days. Leave my friends in Denver to create new friends in Del Norte. Oh wait change that to friend because if one of them reads this I don’t want her thinking I know she likes people. I’d hate for her to know I figured out that façade. Now I’m leaving the new friends to go back to Denver and massage those relationships back to health. Or am I?
This is my challenge, learning how to go on to the next adventure without loosing anything/anyone. I’m planning on working with Garmin to find a way for me to avoid getting lost over these distances. It seems my relationships are determined by geographic nearness! Yikes I guess it’s time to get geographic on everyone’s ass.
Watch out! I’m coming to a stretch of highway near you! What fun do you have for us today?
There is so much more to this topic but remember I still need to pack. I must get back to my lovely Lydia who has been frozen in Carbonite while I run about the galaxy learning about medical care for humans. I hope I haven’t lost anything and the space worm thingy will get me back like we were never apart.
Madge
(PS maybe one day Lydia will blog on her post that I hijacked)
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Dreaming
Not much time to write but I'm feeling pulled to connect.
I'm dreaming. Today I went to Salida to confirm our reception plans and menu. The food was amazing and I can't wait to see how the whole event will come together.
Salida is beautiful with the river running and the budding trees. People were walking about seemingly without a care in the world stopping to watch the frolicking kayakers in the play park.
Every car that passed had some form of toy attached, kayak, bike, raft, backpacks and of course the happy dog heads sticking out the window or over the tailgate. Spring has sprung and I’m a giddy little school girl (without the outfit and of course without a classroom).
In June we get to go on a wonderful river trip down the Middle Fork of the Salmon River! I’m discovering that this trip maybe harder to get on than the Grand Canyon between the water levels (too high or low) and the snow covering the transport roads. So as I say this trip is a go the trip could still go sideways but either way we are insured a wonderful time with a wonderful group of people. The scenery may end up being a different river if the Salmon is too high.
This is an area of the United States that I have not explored and I am so looking forward to doing it via the river and with a great bunch of tree loving people. There are other areas we hope to travel to this summer but the schedule is not finalized yet. If you have something you wish to tempt us with please do.
For now I must concentrate on getting Lydia done with work, the wedding plans set and focusing on the trip closest at hand.
Now I’m off to dream, in color of course, about our wedding and where we will venture on our travels. There is much climbing, rafting, hiking and lounging to be had.
``Madge``
I'm dreaming. Today I went to Salida to confirm our reception plans and menu. The food was amazing and I can't wait to see how the whole event will come together.
Salida is beautiful with the river running and the budding trees. People were walking about seemingly without a care in the world stopping to watch the frolicking kayakers in the play park.
Every car that passed had some form of toy attached, kayak, bike, raft, backpacks and of course the happy dog heads sticking out the window or over the tailgate. Spring has sprung and I’m a giddy little school girl (without the outfit and of course without a classroom).
In June we get to go on a wonderful river trip down the Middle Fork of the Salmon River! I’m discovering that this trip maybe harder to get on than the Grand Canyon between the water levels (too high or low) and the snow covering the transport roads. So as I say this trip is a go the trip could still go sideways but either way we are insured a wonderful time with a wonderful group of people. The scenery may end up being a different river if the Salmon is too high.
This is an area of the United States that I have not explored and I am so looking forward to doing it via the river and with a great bunch of tree loving people. There are other areas we hope to travel to this summer but the schedule is not finalized yet. If you have something you wish to tempt us with please do.
For now I must concentrate on getting Lydia done with work, the wedding plans set and focusing on the trip closest at hand.
Now I’m off to dream, in color of course, about our wedding and where we will venture on our travels. There is much climbing, rafting, hiking and lounging to be had.
``Madge``
Monday, May 16, 2011
Calibration of gay thinking
Yesterday my mother calibrated my thinking. Leave it to a mother to remind you that people can surprise you.
First let me say thank god for family. I know sometimes family can be a struggle but it's the simple little things that shine.
The journey to our wedding has already been a bouquet accented with colors of love, shock, dismay wrapped delicately by pure determination. Colorado does not currently recognize same sex marriage. How can you not recognize something? Is it like seeing someone at a party you don't remember and just know you should or is it like agnosia where the words just make no sense after a traumatic brain injury? How can people not recognize love and honor when they see it? Ok best get to my point before I fall off my soap box and hurt an ankle.
Sometimes we live in the world through the view of the majority even when we say we are bucking the system. At a gallery showing, my mother didn't keep her eye on the displayed art work. Instead she had her own work of art she wished to proudly display, ME. My mother had brought the save the date card for my wedding and was presenting to her fiends just like the paintings displayed with an untouchable price tag. She wore her child on her sleeve for all to see. It was amazing to watch my mother as I kept stuffing the yikes I'm gay and my mom is telling, no yelling to, her friends and people we don't know. What will they think? I believe I was embarrassed not only because I was gay but because I was in the spot light. It's hot under the spot light.
As I chilled and watched my mother hummingbird do her thing I giggled at my own gay thinking. How lame to worry or keep the momma hummingbird from flashing her brilliant colors.
In an instant I was the one who was proud, of my mother and sister flashing their colors around with no worries of what people would think. A friend said oh share that beautiful card with Connie.
Connie loved the card and congratulated us. She then says that she her self never had a drive to marry. That she and her partner probably never will. Ah, in an instant I found my self looking down from my soap box. The words just flitted out of my mouth, I believe we all need to stand up and be counted. We, me and my gay friends in my pocket, deserve to be treated as any other person. So on one hand I believe we all need to stand and beat our colorful wings it still needs to be right for the person.
I say hats off to all those mothers, daughters, brother and fathers who have displayed their family colors for all to see. Each contact we have is an opportunity for calibration even when it might be you being calibrated.
``Madge``
First let me say thank god for family. I know sometimes family can be a struggle but it's the simple little things that shine.
The journey to our wedding has already been a bouquet accented with colors of love, shock, dismay wrapped delicately by pure determination. Colorado does not currently recognize same sex marriage. How can you not recognize something? Is it like seeing someone at a party you don't remember and just know you should or is it like agnosia where the words just make no sense after a traumatic brain injury? How can people not recognize love and honor when they see it? Ok best get to my point before I fall off my soap box and hurt an ankle.
Sometimes we live in the world through the view of the majority even when we say we are bucking the system. At a gallery showing, my mother didn't keep her eye on the displayed art work. Instead she had her own work of art she wished to proudly display, ME. My mother had brought the save the date card for my wedding and was presenting to her fiends just like the paintings displayed with an untouchable price tag. She wore her child on her sleeve for all to see. It was amazing to watch my mother as I kept stuffing the yikes I'm gay and my mom is telling, no yelling to, her friends and people we don't know. What will they think? I believe I was embarrassed not only because I was gay but because I was in the spot light. It's hot under the spot light.
As I chilled and watched my mother hummingbird do her thing I giggled at my own gay thinking. How lame to worry or keep the momma hummingbird from flashing her brilliant colors.
In an instant I was the one who was proud, of my mother and sister flashing their colors around with no worries of what people would think. A friend said oh share that beautiful card with Connie.
Connie loved the card and congratulated us. She then says that she her self never had a drive to marry. That she and her partner probably never will. Ah, in an instant I found my self looking down from my soap box. The words just flitted out of my mouth, I believe we all need to stand up and be counted. We, me and my gay friends in my pocket, deserve to be treated as any other person. So on one hand I believe we all need to stand and beat our colorful wings it still needs to be right for the person.
I say hats off to all those mothers, daughters, brother and fathers who have displayed their family colors for all to see. Each contact we have is an opportunity for calibration even when it might be you being calibrated.
``Madge``
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Pinch Me
Wow, school is out! No time to gather myself. We are less than 60 days away from our wedding. That means everything that I've pushed off because I was in school has to happen yesterday.
My mind is spinning so fast, hard to slow down enough to let the thoughts drop to form sentences. I can't believe what has transpired since August. I'm half way through my two year plan to get a nursing degree.
I've spent way too much time away from my honey and my community. In August I moved down to Del Norte to attend school in Alamosa. In March we brought the dogs and the cats down to live with me so we could consolidate and save some money by renting out our home. Lydia has been a champ living alone in Denver, working and being without us. Her community has been amazing. I don't know if we could have taken this adventure on without our community.
Lydia and I are over it, to say it lightly, about our times away from each other. The past two years have been a whirlwind with my work schedule, school and then moving away from Denver. Enough talk about all that!
We are so excited to share our adventures with you all and look forward to our summer. Get this, we are traveling the whole summer together! Just us, the dogs, bikes, raft, climbing gear and the open road! So by the end of the summer, after spending 24 7 together, we might be ready for my last two semesters of seeing each other part time (doubt it). Know that when I say "just us" that also includes the us that is our community. Come on out and play with us!
It all starts June 1st when I run up to Denver and steal Lydia away from work. Until then I guess I'll plan the wedding details. I'm sure I'll find things to keep me over busy now that I'm out of school. Right now I'm getting in some mom and sis time in lovely Santa Fe. Soon I'm off to Denver to see Bono! Yippie can't wait (Oups was that out loud?). Oh and of course my honey.
We will do our best to keep you all, our beloved community, informed about our adventures. I'm sure there will be opportunities to meet up and play together. I'll get something out on the blog and share what we have planned for our summer honeymoon travels. I like the way that sounds.
Hope to see you all soon!
``Madge``
My mind is spinning so fast, hard to slow down enough to let the thoughts drop to form sentences. I can't believe what has transpired since August. I'm half way through my two year plan to get a nursing degree.
I've spent way too much time away from my honey and my community. In August I moved down to Del Norte to attend school in Alamosa. In March we brought the dogs and the cats down to live with me so we could consolidate and save some money by renting out our home. Lydia has been a champ living alone in Denver, working and being without us. Her community has been amazing. I don't know if we could have taken this adventure on without our community.
Lydia and I are over it, to say it lightly, about our times away from each other. The past two years have been a whirlwind with my work schedule, school and then moving away from Denver. Enough talk about all that!
We are so excited to share our adventures with you all and look forward to our summer. Get this, we are traveling the whole summer together! Just us, the dogs, bikes, raft, climbing gear and the open road! So by the end of the summer, after spending 24 7 together, we might be ready for my last two semesters of seeing each other part time (doubt it). Know that when I say "just us" that also includes the us that is our community. Come on out and play with us!
It all starts June 1st when I run up to Denver and steal Lydia away from work. Until then I guess I'll plan the wedding details. I'm sure I'll find things to keep me over busy now that I'm out of school. Right now I'm getting in some mom and sis time in lovely Santa Fe. Soon I'm off to Denver to see Bono! Yippie can't wait (Oups was that out loud?). Oh and of course my honey.
We will do our best to keep you all, our beloved community, informed about our adventures. I'm sure there will be opportunities to meet up and play together. I'll get something out on the blog and share what we have planned for our summer honeymoon travels. I like the way that sounds.
Hope to see you all soon!
``Madge``
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